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Work: 5 Days of Dapper

Posted on March 9, 2015

As a lawyer, I can say without hesitation that I am not who you usually envision when you think of “lawyer” or “attorney.”

In fact, I usually get raised eyebrows when people ask what I do and I tell them, “I’m a lawyer.” There is an implicit bias associated with certain professions. I get it. I look young, I don’t subscribe to the traditional conservatism that one usually associates with lawyers or the legal professional. I am not a White male. You don’t think of me when you think “Lawyer.”

I am here to change that, not just for myself, but for people like me: people whom American society has worked for generations to relegate to the margins. My job is to bring my full self to the table, from the margins to the center.

I am unapologetically Black, Lesbian, Androgynous, Gender Non-Conforming, Intelligent, Caring, Creative, and Stylish. I define myself, for myself. I affirm myself and I encourage you to do the same.

Style: Casual Distinction

Posted on March 4, 2015

Personal style is intentional and should reflect your personality. I’m pretty laid back; most things no longer get me riled up. At the same time, I take myself and life very seriously, as we all do (or at least we should). Therefore, my style tends to strike a balance between formality and frivolity. It’s what I call “casual distinction.” My wardrobe consists of modern, vintage, a touch of trendy, but mostly classic, elements.

While traveling to Southern California, Los Angeles and San Diego, my style choices reflected the laid-back nature of SoCal, but also included dapper accents. It was Casual and Distinguished.

I Define My Dapper

Posted on February 10, 2015

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Audre Lorde wrote, “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies of me and eaten alive.” Her words are so powerful and they resonate with such an uncanny truth that I cannot help but allow it to resound in my daily life.  Every single day, I decide to be myself and every day I proudly accept the privilege and danger of presenting Black masculinity and queerness. Every day, I smile gleefully and laugh raucously because I define my identity. I define my dapper.

Photographer Amanda Hope, yet again, captured in our latest photo shoot my style and personality in all its enthusiasm, introversion, introspection, and flamboyancy. Yes, I am a walking contradiction, and it works for me. What works for you?


Follow me on Instagram for more of my style posts: @thetjway_

Photographed by Amanda Hope. Instagram: @sharpiesandpocketprotectors

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