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Style: Casual Distinction

Posted on March 4, 2015

Personal style is intentional and should reflect your personality. I’m pretty laid back; most things no longer get me riled up. At the same time, I take myself and life very seriously, as we all do (or at least we should). Therefore, my style tends to strike a balance between formality and frivolity. It’s what I call “casual distinction.” My wardrobe consists of modern, vintage, a touch of trendy, but mostly classic, elements.

While traveling to Southern California, Los Angeles and San Diego, my style choices reflected the laid-back nature of SoCal, but also included dapper accents. It was Casual and Distinguished.

I Define My Dapper

Posted on February 10, 2015

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Audre Lorde wrote, “If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies of me and eaten alive.” Her words are so powerful and they resonate with such an uncanny truth that I cannot help but allow it to resound in my daily life.  Every single day, I decide to be myself and every day I proudly accept the privilege and danger of presenting Black masculinity and queerness. Every day, I smile gleefully and laugh raucously because I define my identity. I define my dapper.

Photographer Amanda Hope, yet again, captured in our latest photo shoot my style and personality in all its enthusiasm, introversion, introspection, and flamboyancy. Yes, I am a walking contradiction, and it works for me. What works for you?


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Photographed by Amanda Hope. Instagram: @sharpiesandpocketprotectors

Fearless Friday – AzMarie Livingston

Posted on January 30, 2015

AzMarie Livingston is not just a talented model, actress, and Raven-Symoné’s partner. She is also a woman who is intentional about her work and how her work reflects her identity and expression. AzMarie identifies as an androgynous woman, and has successfully branded herself professionally to reflect that androgynous identity. She has managed to bring her full identity to her career, overcoming efforts to force her conformity, like this one:

AzMarie refused to wear butt pads to participate in a “booty tooch” competition, presumably a competition meant to showcase the model’s rear end. In the above clip, AzMarie expressed her concern with wearing the butt pads, stating, “I don’t know how I feel about this, because this is taking away from being androgynous.” She asserted her limits, saying she “draw[s] a line with that.” AzMarie suffered the consequences of asserting her professional and personal androgynous identity when she was not allowed to participate in that particular competition.

Undoubtedly, however, AzMarie also reaps the benefits. She has clearly identified her gender identity and expression, engaging in a process that, for many, can be scary, difficult, and overwhelming. Her fearlessness is not only evident in her process of self-revelation, acknowledgement, and acceptance, but also in her ability to present her full self, confidently and unapologetically.

Check out AzMarie in all her androgynous beauty:

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